It took me a long time to realize that I will continue to breathe and live without certain people in my life. I always thought that I HAD to keep these people in my life even tho they are negative, always complaining, or being mean and rude to other people. But I don't. I have the right to weed out people who could be harmful or betray me. I also get to choose to have positive, uplifting people in my life. People who are there for me no matter what, who love me unconditionally. Don't get me wrong, it is ok to vent and if you have a problem, to talk about it. I am mainly referring to people who are two-faced. They complain about a person day in and day out, but then turn around and "pretend" to be that persons best friend. I'm not really sure how someone can do that.
Sometimes I just don't understand people. I don't understand why or how people can be so rude, hateful, or heartless to other human beings. They are just like us, they have feelings too. But then, when they are rude back, people get even more pissed off at them wondering why they are being nasty. I guess people just don't get the Golden Rule, "Treat others the way you want to be treated". If you are going to be a bitch to someone, don't expect them to be all peaces and cream to you. It is not that hard to be nice and courteous. Plus, it will make you feel good about yourself.
Like I said in a previous blog, the only feeling I ever really knew was hate and it made me feel miserable. I would use up so much energy to have a nasty, mean look on my face, to go out of my way to call people names, or to push them, or to just be rude. Now, I love doing things to see a stranger smile. Opening the door, saying, "Hi, how are you?", telling a stranger they look nice, or that they have a beautiful name, or a beautiful smile. Also, when we are at a store check-out, I make it a point to use the person's name. These small things can change someones day. You never know what a person is going thru. It also, takes up less energy to be nice. Just smile, and treat people the way you want to be treated. It's not that hard.
Fear less, hope more; eat less, chew more; whine less, breathe more; talk less, say more; hate less, love more; and all good things are yours. ~ Swedish Proverb
you're a great person. :)
ReplyDeleteoh! and i totally understand what you're saying about 2-faced. i always talk about that to the hubs. i never understood how someone could talk a bunch of crap on someone and then pretend to be their friend the next day...if you don't like that person, don't pretend you do. just don't be friends with them. it's something i'll never understand.
some people just didn't get the always be curtious memo. :/ it's a shame really.
keep up the posts! i enjoy reading them a lot!!
Misery loves company....that is all.
ReplyDelete2 face behavior is nothing more than a desire to be accepted. Those who need to be liked act in a way they feel their the company they are with wants to see so they are liked, even though it's not really who they are.
ReplyDeleteWith confidence comes the strength to be you in any situation with anybody. Love yourself and others will love you, and if not......that's okay.
Great blog post, keep it up.
i can't figure out the name thing at the bottom.
ReplyDeletehaving abusive parent(s) is tough because you grow up thinking this is normal. that your mom is supposed to attack you when she's in a bad mood. and your dad blames you because it's not right to disagree with your mom. wtf?
it's sad that it took us this long before we were able to stand up for ourselves. i'm just glad we have each other to talk to.
-middle sis